This is scary true. I'm viewed as a complainer here. I'm sorry it's not 1991 anymore and I am up to date with the modern day follow up skills.
@sryan It's all good and I say it with love. The fact that you know you're viewed as the complainer is good news. It means you're able to objectify and hopefully do something about it.
One of my favorite soap boxes if I may...
Get out a piece of paper and write INTENTION in the middle of it. This represents what you're trying to achieve and all the ass you're going to kick.
To the right write the word CHOICE, to the left write SITUATION.
The bottom of the page represents the victim loop and you can make a circle after choice that leads to situation with the following:
Ignore, Deny, Blame, Rationalize, Resist, Hide
The top represents the accountability loop:
Recognize, Own, Forgive, Self Examine, Learn, Take Action
When I say above that you need a posture of accountability I think of this model and mean you have a choice and you need to loop up instead of down, ending in action instead of hiding.
I know it's a soap box and it's WAYYYY easier said than done however if you attack the problem with blame what you're really doing is hiding. If there's anything this model has taught me is 1) sales people can rationalize almost ANYTHING and 2) I'm the KING of rationalizing. The best part is I can recognize as (potentially) victim behaviour and change it.
The only reason I share is because I feel your pain and hope this helps. The bottom line is you'll sell more cars and make exponentially more money if you take the accountability loop instead of the victim loop... and everything is funny with a pocket full of money!!
In case you don't do the work with the paper...